Nollywood actress and former Miss Delta State, Lizzygold Onuwaje says she will need to study her man for three years before she finally gets married to him. The model cum actress and movie producer also waded into the high rate of domestic violence in marriages and the current babymama trend. Actress Lizzygold Onuwaje says she must study her man for 3 years before marriage.
Onuwaje made this known in a chat with Vanguard, during which she talked about her latest movie, ‘Just A Night’, a film unmasking the monster of domestic violence. See excerpts below…
Actress Lizzygold Onuwaje says she must study her man for 3 years before marriage
With so many good movies out there, what makes ‘Just a Night’ unique?
“‘Just a Night’ is centered on violence. A lot of people think domestic violence is only when a man raises his hands on a woman but domestic violence is far more than that. It also includes when one uses abusive words on their partners, threatening them and going as far as making their lives unbearable.
“In marriages today domestic violence has become a norm. If you watch ‘Just a Night, you will know how to address the issue of domestic violence, and you will also know how to sense it when you see it coming. ‘Just a Night’ is a family movie that everybody should see; single ladies should also watch it so that when they get married they will know how to address such issues.”
Don’t you think women also violate men in marriages?
“There is no crazy woman as there is no smoke without fire. Before a woman will abuse her husband verbally the man must have pushed her to the wall. No woman will just wake up and start violating her man, it’s not done. Every reaction you get from a woman is based on what the man does; some men don’t know how to take care of women. It’s not just about getting married; people get married and don’t know what to do.
“When you get married you have to take care of your wife, pay bills and do a lot of things. Some men live carelessly and expect their wives to always dance to their tune, domestic violence these days is caused by the men.”
If you will agree will me, do you know people will question your authority on this issue of domestic violence because you are not married?
“I don’t have to be married to be educated on this issue, I’m experienced in the sense that I learn from people’s mistakes. I don’t have to be married to know what domestic violence is about.”
Why are you not married?
“I’m not psychologically ready for marriage. Marriage is a lot, it is not something you just jump into.”
When will you be ready for marriage?
“I will say in three years.”
What will you do if you find yourself in a violent relationship?
“I don’t think I can find myself in a violent relationship because before I decide to get married to a man I have to study him very well. In fact I have to study him for a year to three years before marrying him. If I sense an atom of violence, if he tries to raise his hands or voice at me I will move out.”
Do you believe that some men raise their hands on their wives purely out of love?
“I don’t think so; I think a man that hits his wife is doing that out of hatred. There are other ways a man can prove his love like buying her gifts, taking her on a trip and all.”
There is a disturbing trend in the society these days, women are becoming more of baby mamas, what do you think is responsible for this?
“I think people are starting to realize that aborting pregnancies is wrong and illegal. These days when women get pregnant they want to keep it and bring up the child even if the father is not interested. Women are just more enlightened, also there is this saying that when a woman turns thirty and above her chances of getting pregnant reduces, so most women when they attain this age all they want to do is keep their pregnancy no matter what in order not to lose the chance of being a mother.
“Some women say they don’t want to live under a man so they prefer to be baby mamas. That is what they want; every woman is entitled to her opinion and freedom. Some women don’t want to be under the roof of a man. In our culture except in few cases, a woman is expected to do everything while the man provides the money, some women can’t through such especially career women…” she added.
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